The Diabetic Diva®

Naomi Kingery, author of The Sugar Free Series, shares her outlook on diabetes

New Blog is Live
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I have enjoyed having this blog but as I enter a new phase and life in my career, I have launched a brand new look and feel of my website www.livetolovediabetes.com which includes an integrated blog. Don't miss a beat with any of my blogs as they have all transferred over, so go check out my new website and enjoy!

Naomi Kingery

Dblog Week Day 3: Thing to Improve On
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I am so excited to be able to announce the launch of my new and improved website, it is so close to be done and will be complete very coon. I hope y’all like the brand new look and feel! This week my weekly Wednesday blog this week is for the third blog post of dblog week. Enjoy!

Today’s topic is on things we think we can improve, after yesterday’s much needed pat on the back. When I try and think of things I can improve around my diabetes management, the perfectionist in me can come up with a fairly long list. But to speak about one thing I would like to improve would be around what I just mentioned, to not be such a perfectionist and to find a better balance when I make mistakes.

I spent years as a head strong perfectionist. I always wanted things a certain way but my diagnosis highlighted that aspect of my personality because of the meticulous and repetitive daily tasks involved with it. I would be so hard on myself if I missed a bolus or wanted to have rice on date night when my blood sugar was high all day or if I forgot to check my blood sugar and had consequences because of it. Then what happened was after a few years of keeping this up, I knew I couldn’t live that way anymore. Because diabetes can never be perfect, and to try to attain that is enough to drive someone crazy. I couldn’t blame myself for things not in my control, and I couldn’t be so hard on myself for the things that were in my control. Diabetes was more than a full time job for me, and the amount of focus I had on it for the first few years as a diabetic, led me to a breakdown.

So I spent a few years after that trying to find the balance and was determined to find a way to make this something I could handle. But then what’s happened after years of finding this balance, I started to find myself leaning on the other end of the spectrum. Where I of course continued the meticulous and daily tasks of diabetes but my mindset wasn't there, and when I made a mistake I would become emotionally disconnected from it and brush it off. The mistakes began more often, and I still brushed them off.
Here I am, now in the middle, finding my footing again. Looking forward to my future of continuing to seek this balance, one that is not only doable but sustainable.

So once again: I am Naomi, The Diabetic Diva®, and what I can improve on is to continue to find the balance of being a person with diabetes, not someone completely defined by or overpowered by each detail of this disease, but a person who can focus on the joy in life and take each challenge as it comes.

Dblog Week Day 2: One Great Thing
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Today is the second day of the 3rd annual dblog week! Todays topic is to focus on something we do right when it comes to diabetes management and to give ourselves a well deserved sugar free pat on the back because of it.

While living with diabetes it can become so easy to get stuck. Stuck in a rut, stuck in your head, and stuck in a never-ending loop of health related events that can make you go from laughing to crying in a moments notice. After ten years with this disease, there is a lot that has gone wrong but there is also a lot that has gone right. And for the things that have gone right, I give myself credit. What I give myself credit for the most is that I choose to celebrate in the midst of it all.

I choose to celebrate life, celebrate diabetes, and celebrate the things that go right.

I decided very early on that the only way I could get through this with a smile, a real smile, on my face would be to genuinely search for the upsides of this disease that can feel so bitter at times. How did I do that? I chose. I learned that joy with diabetes wouldn’t necessarily be something that would happen, but something I would have to choose daily and that I would need to lean on the love of Christ to find the joy I so longed fore. Once I chose, I realized that this wasn’t a once in a life time choice but one that would need to happen every morning. Waking up to another low, more holes in my finger tips, and more needles. But the joy is there. The strength is there. So what I do right is not to only focus on the physical acts involved in diabetes management, but truly realizing that there is a large emotional portion of it and one that I need to make the choice every day to focus on. And I keep smiling.

I am Naomi, The Diabetic Diva®, and I am proud of myself for continuing to make the choice to celebrate the big and the small things that I have been blessed with.

Dblog Week Day 1: Find a Friend
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I am very excited to be a part of the third annual dblog week and kick off this Happy Monday with the first prompt, “Find a Friend”. Housecleaning item first: My website is still under construction, so to read my blog please come here to the blog directly. I will embed them into my new site when it is live, but until then I appreciate your patience!

Find a Friend: My Friend @mydiabeticheart
For those of who are involved in the DOC, this friend of mine may not be new to you at all. I “met” him soon after his diagnosis of type 2 diabetes through my work on Diabetic Rockstar, and saw very soon how passionate he was becoming for helping people going through the some of the same things as he. Mike Durbin uses his voice on his blog My Diabetic Heart, where he shares his struggles and triumphs while living with both type 2 diabetes and congestive heart failure. He is always there to lend a hand, share an encouraging word, and to use what he learns to teach others around him which has been a continued inspiration to me.

Thank you Mike (@mydiabeticheart)for all that you do in the DOC and sharing your inspiring story through your blog, and for being my friend! Check out his funny, real and heart-warming blog to learn more about Mike the author and creator of “My Diabetic Heart” and add his blog on your list to read.

Coming soon!
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When you come back for my blog post next Wednesday, there should be a brand new look to www.livetolovediabetes.com! As I make the final touches on the new website prior to the launch, here is a peek at the brand new Diabetic Diva logo. What do y'all think?

TuDiabetes Book Review on Sugar Free Support
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I didn't have the chance to share this previously, but check out the wonderful book review done recently on my newest eBook on Sugar Free Support written by Emily Coles for TuDiabetes.

Book Review: Sugar Free Support, by Naomi Kingery, aka The Diabetic Diva
Posted by Emily Coles on March 1, 2012 at 3:41pm in General Diabetes Topics and Pre-DiabetesView Discussions.

This incredibly compassionate book is written for people who have loved-ones with diabetes. In it, Naomi (The Diabetic Diva) shares her thoughts and experiences as a person who has had type 1 diabetes since her youth, and very kindly discusses the forms of support that have and have not been helpful to her.

Filled with her own stories and experiences, I think this book is especially great for anyone who feels lost, scared or overwhelmed in their efforts to support someone they love who has diabetes. What do you say at dessert time? What do you not say? Why, when you try to be helpful and sympathetic, does your loved-one get upset with you? Will questions about food or blood sugars be perceived as caring or nagging?

I know that when I was a kid growing up with diabetes my parents did not know of any book like this, and they probably would have really loved to read it! Naomi places no blame, expresses no impatience, and makes no assumptions about what a person "should know" or "should figure out" about their loved-one's experience with diabetes. She acknowledges that being part of a support team can be really tough, and that our supporters need help too.

Sugar Free Support is a super-quick read, at about 50 pages, and can be purchased for $5 as an eBook through Amazon Kindle (www.amazon.com) or Barnes and Noble Nook (www.barnesandnoble.com).

Post-It Notes
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I’ve always been a yellow post-it note kind of girl and at times have felt like if I don’t write it down, I most likely won’t remember to do or successfully complete the task. And as things have gone digital, I now have a post it note app on my phone and computer desktop which is amazing. I love the feeling of being able to cross things off my list…ahhh….

This gets me thinking about priorities and the fact that there are times that I have to rearrange the items on my list, and move the most important to the top. This happens in everyday tasks and the things that life throws my way. But one thing that is never on my list, that is supposedly ingrained in who I am, is diabetes management. And my list never includes to check my blood, eat accordingly, and bolus for my meals.

Which leads me to my next issue, I forgot to bolus for my afternoon snack yesterday and then wondered why my CGM kept showing an arrow moving up. I have never been one to miss boluses, and have probably done it 5 times in my 10 years with diabetes (although, 3 of the 5 have happened in the past year which is an interesting dilemma). Priorities.
There’s a fine line between forgiving yourself for messing up and condoning the fact that you messed up, and it’s vital to see that you will reap the consequences for not putting diabetes on the top of your list. Some days, I might just starting putting some diabetes related tasks on my post it notes, and I don’t think that’s a bad thing but more so of a reminder that through different phases of life, we may need to push diabetes higher on that list and force ourselves to remember to do so. Because the reality is, I didn’t get much done on my to-do list after my missed bolus because I was so foggy from my highs.

Diabetes management as a priority, here I come! Today a new sensor is on, my reservoir is full, and I (think) I have plenty of strips to get me through the day.

Flashback: Exercise- The Antidote
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In preparing for this blog the thought that crossed my mind was, "I wonder what I wrote this week last year..." So I checked. Here it is, a flashback on a topic I wrote about exercise and pre-diabetes which can in some cases lead to t2 due to additional weight one carries around. Of course, don't want to add to the rumor mill that this is the only reason someone is diagnosed as t2, but in those with pre-diabetes today it can be a contributing factor.

Flashback from April 2011:

I have been working on a presentation for my college class Psychology of Exercise. I am majoring in Kinesiology so this is right up my alley. We were recently given the assignment to "write on any issue or problem that relates to the socio-psychological aspect of physical activity."

With such a broad prompt it may seem like it would take time to narrow down to one decision, not me. Diabetes would be my topic, pre-diabetes leading to type two. I would probably need all of my fingers and my toes to count the number of times I have used diabetes as a presentation topic in school. Could what I sometimes think takes over my life be somewhat of a comfort zone? I think so. But this presentation would be a little different, as it was on preventing diabetes (something I wish I could have done)...

I learned about a very interesting study while working on my presentation, which I call "Exercise: The Antidote". The Diabetes Prevention Program looked at 3,234 overweight or obese people and monitored them for over ten years. After three years of being in the study they identified that with three groups of people (those who exercised, took medicine, and the control group) the exercise group was 58% less likely to develop type two, and those who took medicine were 31% less likely to develop type two. This is so significant in reminding us to help those with pre-diabetes take control. To think that we can help impact the lives of 79 million Americans who have pre-diabetes, just by sharing the awareness that they can actually postpone or even prevent a diagnosis is an amazing thing that can ultimately save lives. How can we encourage those with pre-diabetes? 
  • Create awareness of the risks of diabetes and its complications
  • Surround them with social support
  • Create exercise programs that are sensitive to physical and mental needs (Recommendations are at least 3-4 times a week for 20-30 minutes)


Our roles in the DOC not only rely on encouraging each other within the community, but also a reminder that we don't want this community to be bigger than it needs to be!


Working on My Next Book During This 10th Year of Progress
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I'm now over half way through my ten years with diabetes. My goal is to spend this full year writing my fourth and final part of the Sugar Free Series with a book that shares the lessons I have learned over the last decade. I have been documenting my experiences as I have continued to learn more, but have taken a break for a while from the writing to let more of this tenth year sink in so that my book will be the best it can be. What's interesting to me is that here I am ten years later, and I'm still learning. My perspective continues to change on my diabetes. I go through phases of feeling confident and on top of the world with amazing blood sugar, and then out of nowhere come those never ending weeks of blood sugar that doesn't seem to know where it should be (even after all this time). But what this shows me is that as I continue to learn, I am given the opportunity to progess, not only as a person with diabetes but a person who loves life and pushes the limits.

I am thankful, I am in a constant state of retrospect and thoughtfullness, and I am excited about my new book! Don't worry, you'll be one of the first to know when it's out. I'm about 1/4 of the way done with it, with 2/4 of the year left to write it...this means I need to stop learning and need to get to work! 

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My Personal Thoughts on the Medtronic Diabetes Advocate Forum
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I will add a disclaimer and disclosure as all of the bloggers are before I share my thoughts on the Diabetes Advocate Forum hosted by the diabetes business unit of Medtronic. They didn’t pay my way or my stay because I live 10 minutes away and happen to work there LOL but this blog is as always my own thoughts, and I wasn’t asked or told to do anything otherwise. So this disclaimer isn't really serving a purpose other than to say: I love my job as a diabetes advocate who happens to be a Medtronic employee, or the other way around I'm not quite sure.

This was my second experience with the Diabetes Advocate Forum. I have been a Medtronic employee for both of those years and have been involved behind the scenes prior to the event and part of the special days. But my journey with diabetes started 10 years ago. I became a pumper 9 years ago, author 5 years ago, blogger 3 years ago, and employee for Medtronic soon after as all of my other activities in the community helped to open this door to my career. This year for the forum, I got the honor and opportunity to spend a few hours in the afternoon at the forum as well as dinner that night. In the past, I have often found myself struggling internally over both of the roles that I play in events such as this, as a person with diabetes, blogger and author in the community, as well as an employee of a company that is striving to make genuine relationships with this group of amazing people. But as time goes on, I feel less insecure and unsure of using this voice inside of me in both of these roles, but more certain of that fact that I am absolutely blessed in every way that this voice of mine will not change or conflict in any setting and it is important that I continue to speak up because that is what God has called me to do.

At the forum, with all the conversations and time spent with these 28 people, I thoroughly enjoyed having the rare perspective of truly seeing both sides at the same time. I got to see friendly faces that I have seen before and had the opportunity to meet so many more, adding to my list of friends within this community. It is so nice to have face to face interactions with people that get it, and work to help others do the same. Sometimes hearing a laugh is so much more beautiful and real than an "LOL" and I loved being able to experience that. Each person, unique in their own way, brings such value to our community with their voice and I was honored to be able to listen. 
 
My biggest takeaway was the importance of unity. The importance of using our voices as diabetes advocates to share one message of hope, faith and friendship. There is a way to shine as individuals and to have the ability to share the messages that we hold personally close to our hearts, but we are on the brink of finding a way as a community of how we can take steps forward as individuals forward in the same direction to accomplish the same goal. The goal for a person with diabetes to know that they are never alone, and they can in fact do this. None of us have all of the answers but if we can find a way to push through the vulnerability with openess and honesty to the reality of the disease that we live with, that is when we are true advocates amidst the bittersweetness that surrounds us every single day.

Cherise and Naomi

Cherise @Diabetic_Iz_Me and I

So to the advocates that I got to see again, for those I was able to meet for the first time, give hugs to and laugh with; thank you. Thank you for caring to be the voice of those who aren’t heard all of the time, and for spending a large portion of your lives to share the messages each of you feel called to share. DOC, you were represented and you were represented well. Be assured that you have such a great, genuine, and varied unique group of people who will always make sure to hear that your thoughts and feelings are heard. The support this community provides can not be compared to anything else, and is something we need to hold tight to our hearts but open our arms to extend and share even further. To my fellow advocates, keep up the amazing work out there as individuals and as a united force, and I will be forever grateful as I have the opportunity to do the same.

With love,
Naomi Kingery
The Diabetic Diva®
c/o Jeremiah 29:11
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